Obviously they are a tad extreme, but you get my jist.
We all make these silent vows, even if we don't know it. Some more realisitic than others. But how many of us break them?? I would say a good 95% of us!! They aren't necessarily what we think ALL parents should do, just us as individuals or as a couple. I never really wanted children, i was never that interested by them to be honest. But i was always first to judge other peoples parenting skills. And i'll be the first to admit that!!
3 children down the line i THINK i have a fairly good idea about this parenting malarky. What is the right way of dealing with situations and what is definitely the wrong way. (And let me tell you now, i have had quite a few of wrong ways.)
Drum roll please! Mine were -
- I will never co sleep
- I will NOT have a toddler with a dummy
- I will never give in to "toddler pressure"
- I will always take up the offer of second hand clothes and equipment
- I will never have one of those children that scream in the supermarket
No really. They were honestly my silent vows. Hilarious, right!? Although, to give myself the benefit of the doubt, i haven't actually properly co slept. So i kept to 1 out of 5!! Wahoo!
Toddler pressure. That's definitely worse than peer pressure at school.. ya know... "Please go and flick ink on that kids pale blue shirt or you won't be my best friend and you are definitely not coming to my amazing birthday party that is a disco which was the same as last year" Vs. "WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHH!!!!! MUMMMYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!" okay okay you win, you all-screaming-red-faced-all-legsandarms-flailing-18-month-old-child.
I always thought "those parents" (me.) were terrible parents because their child would demolish a whole loaf of bread in the trolly, and scream when it all ran out and then demolish a whole bag of marshmallows whilst throwing chewed up left over bread at the old lady buying her weekly fix of worthers originals. THATS ME. That is ACTUALLY me. Can't believe it! I am ONE OF THOSE. Agh! Where did i all go wrong? (read above.)
I do try not to give in, and i would say 80% of the time i don't. But obviously the 20% of when i do is what they remember! Damn.
Its not that i think i'm a crap parent, i do think i do alright. They all sleep through, they tell me when they are upset, they all love me. So does it REALLY matter? Nah. Not at all. Those tantrums and soggy bread throwing is all part of it, right? In the non existant book of rules and guide to how to be a perfect parent, i reckon it says about all that for sure.
And obviously, this...